Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought “I am going to lose weight. I am going to change my body. I am going to be healthy.” But then you see all these posts about fat and fit shamers going to hell or listen to “All About That Bass” and think “Nah, I am happy with my body.” If you are more than 20-30 pounds overweight, I am sorry to break it to you, but you probably shouldn’t be.
Yea. You read that right. In this new politically correct age of loving yourself just the way you are, I am the bitch who is calling bull s***.
I know what you’re thinking. “Did she just say loving yourself is BS?” No. Not by a long shot. No I am not fat or any other type of shaming, but here is the truth.
Our generation and our nation is literally the unhealthiest it has ever been and people are just okay with that. Now THAT is BS. We have become a society of complacent, entitled, unhealthy assholes (last cussword, I promise.)
Yes, I believe that the media has skewed the vision of what true health is. They make you think that women have to be skinny with thigh gaps (whatever the hell that is) and guys have to have huge pecs and a six pack to be considered “in shape.” I get it. This isn’t okay. For some (like me) we will never have a thigh gap. I mean have you seen my legs?
But on the other end of the spectrum you have people who have taken such a stand against those visions that they are telling us to love ourselves no matter how overweight or out of shape we are. And that’s not okay either!
Where is the middle ground with all of this nonsense, you ask?
It’s loving ourselves enough to want more for our bodies, mind and spirit. It’s accepting our body type and knowing what it’s capable of but then working to make it healthy. Not everyone will have a six pack and a thigh gap but wanting to make a change to become a healthier, happier version of yourself is an amazing thing! And I think our society is trying to make it into a bad thing!
The point of this post is not to make anyone feel bad, but to say that it’s ok to have a goal of being two sizes smaller, if being two sizes smaller is what you want. I feel like it has almost become taboo to say that you want to change something about yourself. Even if that change is for the good. When I tell people I want to lose 10 pounds and have a six pack, I often get “You should just be happy with how you are.” Well, F that. I want a damn six pack and I am going to work for that. (Sorry, I lied about not cussing.)
The phrase “Be proud but never satisfied” is my personal mantra. Sure, two years ago I went overboard with that mantra and even at 116 pounds I hated my body, but gone are the days of self-defamation and self-doubt. I have a healthy relationship with food and my body now, and although I am healthy, I still set goals to push my body to the next level.
The truth is, you are beautiful. You are amazing. And your size does not define that. But if you are not taking care of yourself by eating right and exercising, you are doing yourself a HUGE injustice. Don’t you think that if you really loved your body as much as you say you do, that you would do anything in your power to really take care of it? Being beautiful is not a dress size or a number on the scale, and yes beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, but if you aren’t completely happy with yourself, don’t be afraid to change!